In the experiences that I’ve had and after spending some time independent study on child-rearing, I am positively sure the majority of the problems in society are directly proportionate with how people are treated in their childhood.
Although there are probably countless mistakes expecting parents make before children are born,the first mistake made after birth much of the time is circumcision. I won’t go much in depth about here as we have discussed it before. The bottom line is, it is wrong to go messing around with a natural part of a kid’s anatomy. Everything else is based on the same principle; do no harm. I would say it’s important to give your children space. Respect your children and they will respect you in return. What tends to happen is when children are disrespected over a period of time, later on it is reflected back on the parents. In some cases, it may not even be intentional. It’s sort of like karma. Additionally, parent’s negative behavior towards their kids can have deleterious effects later on; such as violent criminal activity.
There really are no hard and fast rules, except violence begets violence. Some children may be able to battle violent tendencies after abuse and win; but why take that chance? So, focusing on American society, not only do children get hearty doses of disrespect at home, they are made to go to buildings everyday, where there is very little respect for them either. For those of that went to these structures of tyranny, do you remember the amount of anxiety we felt? It was an onslaught of attacks from several angles. Pedagogues talking down at us serving up boredom and letters. These letters could get you to be attacked further by our parents. This attack was severe. Possibly a physical attack. No matter how brutal the attack was, we probably didn’t feel compelled to fight back; at least not until we reached a certain age. Then, by that time, the physical attacks most likely stopped. Though, the verbal attacks continue. They probably will continue until all ties are cut from the parent. Going back to those buildings of tyranny though, there was another group of people who liked to crush us emotionally or physically. Our peers. So not only did we have to deal with abusive parents and pedagogues, all the crap the students dealt with could be directed toward us. Saying this was a bad deal would be an understatement. This was a 12 year nightmare or 12 years in a torture chamber. It doesn’t have to be that way for the next generation. Please don’t do this to your kids. Children do not have to be subjected to this nonsense to learn.
As a parent who may have been disrespected as a child, there may be a tendency to do the same to your children. Please, don’t do that. Remember, we are trying to have not only a smarter generation, but a generation that is highly skilled at neutralizing violence or deescalating it. One technique available to use in those early years is to give your child choices in every day selections. The idea here is to empower your child to make smart decisions. Also, pushing out the tendency of “because I said so,” which is not compatible with showing your that authoritarian behavior is should not be respected. This is why we have nonsense like war and prohibition. America at this point has become the most unfree land on the planet. Things really are backwards. It’s because of authoritarian behavior and not enough people pushing back against it. It starts with raising the youth in such a way that while having respect for one another, authoritarian sociopaths should not be recognized.